July 6, 2009

learning through play

Every parent knows peer pressure.  It overwhelms us, drives us to irrational and often self-destructive behavior.  Like limiting our children to 30 minutes of "screen time" each day.


We have friends (some of whom may be reading this now) who allow their children 30 minutes of screen time a week.  Screen time includes video games, computer games, and even TV.  I believe exemptions are made for computer (homework) and TV (family movies).  Most families we know, including us, allow 30 minutes a day.  We give an hour on weekends.

Most screen time involves Wii FPS games, Wii "Brawl," or Spore on the computer.  But how much is really too much?  My kids have begun making a low-budget movie.  Their equipment is a 6-year-old digital camera with an MPG feature, plus whatever they can turn into costumes and props.  The most successful prop appears to be the garage door, which they film closing when they want to illustrate that the main character has been locked away in a prison camp cell.  They have a plot, but they take turns being the main character and there's not much dialog besides "oh, I've been shot" and such.  This makes the whole thing a little difficult to follow.

BUT today they discovered how to get the files onto the new MacBook and play with them in iMovie.  Ethan is cutting out bits and splicing the segments together.  He already knows how to add background music and sound effects.  Sam, who just turned 10, is actually quite a good cameraman and is learning iMovie and GarageBand, too.

Does this count as "screen time"?  They're creating.  They're learning.  They're developing skills that I think will help them achieve more in the future.  They're honing their ability to think creatively, to identify improvements and try again.  Their work allows us to talk about the craft of storytelling, the craft of moviemaking, even money management.

But they're still huddled over a screen inside during summer vacation for much of the day.

I suppose it's really about balance.  Time spent filming is time outdoors, imagining and playing.  Time not on the computer is time spent reading or playing games.  (The one thing they DON'T do is chores.  Of any kind.  At any time.)  Really it shouldn't be about time in front of the screen.  It should be about time spent in mindless play as opposed to imaginative or active play.

personal writing log
I've been a total slug with writing recently.  OK, only a partial slug.  Work is sucking up all my creative energy.  Still, in June I managed to write ten poems (besides my haiku wednesdays), and some of them were even decent.  That's ahead of my "2 poems a week" goal for 2009.  I hit 1,111 words for Aerin's random complexity challenge.  I even revised one chapter of "Andie's Gold," my MG adventure set in the gold rush.  So I'm on my goals.  But my goals are modest.

Any of you who would like to see my poems, please email me at dudleypj at gmail dot com.  They're posted to a private blog which only Aerin appears to be reading (hi Aerin!  Thanks!).  I'm happy to have more people there; I just don't want them to be considered "published."

Speaking of "published," within the next few weeks a story of mine will appear in the San Francisco Writers Conference anthology.  AND a poem of mine was accepted by a literary journal and is expected to be published I guess towards the end of this year.  It's my second attempt at publishing poetry and first hit.  Doesn't pay much, but I'm thrilled.  I heard the journal's co-editor speak, and I am honored and flattered that she liked my work.

July 1, 2009

haiku wednesday - July 1, 2009

This week's words are
collapse
sweet
yearn

Another work trip this week. I am sorry I won't get to visit everyone this week due to the travel. Thank-you to all who came by last week and left such kind notes! Also, "Airport Transportation NY" asked for a special haiku addressed to the king of pop, so I'm using one of my three 3WW haiku to do just that. See if you can guess which one. (I have to admit that although I agree he was talented, and I did sorta like some of his songs, I never cared much about MJ when he was popular... and I can't say I was much moved when I heard about his death.)



my lips yearn for yours
one final taste--I collapse
sweet, sweet Juliette...


ponzi schemes collapse
we yearn for greater justice
no sweet ending, this


fans scream, swoon, collapse
yearn for your sweet moves, smooth voice
moonwalking through life

June 24, 2009

haiku wednesday - June 24, 2009

This week's words are
fickle
sparkle
wrinkle

Thanks to all who stopped by throughout the week. I did in fact get my luggage the next day... after my big meeting. What a week this has been. Insane busy. This week's words... they seem like three elves that didn't make it into a Christmas claymation special.



chilly day, hot night
eyes sparkle as sheets wrinkle
fickle as weather


wrinkle, crumple, toss
my prose has lost its sparkle
fickle muse, return!


slow, black swells sparkle
fickle winds wrinkle slack sails
time for a cool change

June 17, 2009

haiku wednesday - June 17, 2009

This week's words are
arresting
rhythmic
wicked

On the road. Airline (United/US Air) lost my luggage. Early meeting in the morning. #$%@@#$%!!!!



she's so arresting
wicked touch, rhythmic embrace
undercovers cop


water wicked through stem
arresting, rhythmic dripping
unending cycle


no rhythmic snoring
in your place, wicked silence
arresting my dreams

June 10, 2009

haiku wednesday - June 10, 2009

This week's words are
dangerous
keepsake
restless

It's nearly Thursday in London already, and I'm just getting to this now. Egads!



restless memories
your ex-lover's phone number
dangerous keepsake


dangerous intent
holding stolen keepsake bones
restless stalker nears


restless spirit roams
dangerous, seeking revenge
for lost keepsake heart

June 9, 2009

my son is a crazy person

What I love about my son's boy scout troop:  They are, by and large, nerds. They are great kids, fun and witty, well intentioned and personable.  After tonight's troop meeting, they were discussing the density of various heavenly bodies.  No, not Angelina Jolie's BMI. Pulsars and Quasars. Red dwarfs and brown dwarfs.


OK, so that's fine.  Maybe they're in the AP test mode, the final exam 
hangover where their mouth becomes the pressure release valve for the extra knowledge they've crammed into their skulls.

When we got home from the meeting, we looked online for some information about pulsars and quasars.  Interesting, really.  It was easy to find basic information.  Then I happened to mention to my son (who is nearly, but not quite, 13 years old, and who nearly, but not quite, is done with 6th grade) that I might have my old college astrophysics textbook lying around.  Why?  Hell if I know.  But we found it, and now, nearly an hour later, he's still got his head buried in it, well past bedtime.  Crazy kid.

This is not your "astronomy for poets" type of book.  This book has over 550 pages, nearly every one of which has something like this on it, frequently more than one:
Yeah, I used to be able to do that kind of thing.  Calculate the surface area of a Gaussian surface.  Solve differential equations.  Figure out why two trains, one leaving Cleveland at 6 a.m. going 100 miles per hour and the other leaving Detroit at 8 a.m. going 80 miles per hour, would end up in a lawsuit involving a cup of McDonald's coffee, a firefighter with three testicles, and a vicious pack of meerkats.  (Yes, I went to UC Berkeley.)

Anyway, my point is that... what kind of 12 year old buries himself in a book like this?  Nutty kid.

June 8, 2009

Another Jason Evans Contest Coming!

Jason Evans at the Clarity of Night blog is going to run another of his outstanding, famous contests beginning July 8th. A very nice guy, terrific writer, and sublime poet, Jason has pulled together a community of writers that is truly astonishing.

Even though the contest opens July 8th, he's giving us a sneak preview of the photo prompt. His past contests have essentially been flash fiction in 250 words, inspired by a photo he's taken. I hope all you writers (and people who might consider writing some time) jump into this with an entry of your own. Fair warning: The last contest garnered over 120 entries, and you will find that you get lost in reading them. Most are very good; some are truly outstanding.

And I'm not just saying that because I won the last contest.

June 3, 2009

Listen to the author... if you DARE

Robin has once again coerced us all, via her superb and unyielding charm, to post our own voices reading our own work. Below is an audio only rendition of a poem I wrote a while back called "Cold and Bitter." I blogged the text of it before, but Julaina convinced me to change the last line. I'm glad she did.

haiku wednesday - June 3, 2009

This week's words are
folly
hostile
ordinary

Here it is again, a whole week gone by without any post but 3WW. I may not make the rounds this week until the weekend, if at all. Fair warning--if you are expecting reciprocal comments, then feel free to click away now and ignore me this week. Besides, how good can these be if they were written in a total of fourteen minutes (including title, tag, and intro paragraph)?



ordinary charm
can't overcome your folly
THAT's why I'm hostile


hostile reviewer
pans book as ordinary
folly to read it


folly to resist
no ordinary girl, she
beware hostile claws

May 27, 2009

haiku wednesday - May 27, 2009

This week's words are
dreary
embrace
timid

Today's homework: Recruit one new person to 3WW. So, any of you out there who are searching for a weekly prompt, maybe to avoid the Koala Klaws of Doom, maybe just to get yourself unstuck, maybe to ease the monotony of the midweek doldrums... join in by writing something using the three words above and then going to http://threewordwednesday.wordpress.com and leaving a comment. There really are some good poets out there playing along each week, and some great fiction (especially from the 3WW head honcho, ThommyG).

(For those of you who may have followed Stephen's comment link to this site, he actually was referring to the next post down, the one about the California budget and Prop 8.)

Oh, and this week's words were so easy and inviting that I had to throw in a fourth one that came to me as I was about to click "publish post."



your dreary embrace
makes me regret timid kiss
how can I escape?


timid flowers wait
craving love's lusty embrace
dreary high school dance


this dreary job sucks
too timid to say "shove it"
embrace the paycheck


lonely, dreary days
timid wife finds love online
virtual embrace

May 26, 2009

prop 8 decision to save California budget

The California Supreme Court, with tremendous wisdom, did not rule on the validity of Prop 8 until after last week's special election. In that special election, Californians smacked down several measures that would have levied temporary additional taxes to cover the current state budget shortfall. Because those measures failed, the state will likely lay off thousands of workers, cut social services to almost nothing, and reduce education funding.

Today, the California Supreme Court possibly saved the entire state by upholding the validity of Prop 8. You may recall that Prop 8 famously outlaws gay marriage by defining marriage, directly within the state constitution, as being between one man and one woman. Today's ruling simply answered the question, "Is the constitutional amendment passed by the voters a valid and legal constitutional amendment?" Their answer: Why, yes, it is a valid amendment.

The court's decision has paved the way for the next lawsuit, which of course will declare that marriage, by the constitution's definition, is by its very nature discriminatory. With marriage itself deemed unconstitutional, all the hundreds of thousands of married heterosexual couples (like me and my wife) will have to rush to register for a civil union. Imagine all the paperwork fees, the printing required! Many will take this opportunity to renew vows, possibly with Pagan ceremonies involving catering. The benefits to the California economy will be staggering.

So thank you, Supreme Court, for saving the California economy. And thank you, Justice Moreno, for supplying the dissenting opinion that so clearly articulates that even a "narrow exception" to equality is inequality and is not to be tolerated.

May 25, 2009

Sibley Volcanic Labyrinth

Memorial Day

In memory of those who have served, and in gratitude for those who serve today.

May 22, 2009

emotion and quality

This morning I stumbled upon some things I'd written four years ago--personal notes, journal entries written when I was going through a difficult emotional period. Suffice to say it was one of those times when one problem seeps over into every aspect of your life and distracts you in a constant and very uncomfortable way, not unlike sandpaper underwear.

What surprised me about these notes was how darned good the writing was. I was shocked at the raw emotion, the provocative descriptions, the rich yet tight prose. And I wished I could write like that now. Such freedom and power. I've never shown those notes to anyone, and I don't expect to.

Today, I have no serious issues in my life. Day Job, family, and yard work consume my time, and when I try to write I find my creative energy spent. No everpresent pain or angst drives me. Instead of bleeding onto a blank page, I find myself clearing my head with a crossword puzzle or some other mental bubblegum. Instead of thinking about my writing while at work, I'm thinking about work while trying to write.

How can I get back to that place of inspiration? I don't think recreating the circumstances of four years ago is a good idea. And I don't much care for the idea of sandpaper boxers. Is that deep emotion required for true art?

May 20, 2009

haiku wednesday - May 20, 2009

This week's words are
efficient
optimize
treacherous

A whole week has gone by? Holy shme. And May is half over and I've not yet done my 1,000 words for Aerin. (Though I did edit a section of about 2,500 words... does that count, Aerin?)



optimize word use
treacherous syllable count
efficient haiku


must be efficient
optimize everything now!
a treacherous slope?


no treacherous words
an efficient kind of love
you optimize me

May 13, 2009

haiku wednesday - May 13, 2009

This week's words are
bicker
nervous
trajectory

thommyg revealed the solution to one of life's greatest mysteries today by explaining how he selects the three words each week. However it happens, I appreciate it. Thanks, Thom!



vain judges bicker
nervous idols wait for votes
star trajectory


sage and fool bicker
over orb trajectory
nervous mobs listen


sage and fool bicker
over DOW trajectory
nervous mobs listen

May 11, 2009

The office in Las Vegas

Short walk from the cheap hotel. Glad we'll be indoors since it's supposed to be 97 degrees today. (That's 35 to you Europeans, I think.)

May 6, 2009

haiku wednesday - May 6, 2009

This week's words are
cryptic
flash
malign

Harsh, combative words this week. How invigorating! But they are slightly difficult words, I find. Easy to weave together, but difficult to structure in so small a space. (Mostly because I choose to use the words as presented and not use permutations such as maligned for malign, or flashing for flash.)



they malign my name
candid flash, cryptic headline
to build their own fame


malign the research
cryptic signs, flash of insight
now you understand


flash your cryptic smile
do you malign or praise me?
your words mean two things

May 5, 2009

bless his heart, or "lets just be friends"

One eyebrow raised in suspicious acceptance... mind whirring, analyzing the circuitous praise... half a thought thinking that "circuitous praise" is a cool phrase but probably too difficult to pronounce to be the name of a rock band, though it has good possibility for tee shirt design...

So, um... "Thanks, Aerin. I think."

The "Let's Just Be Friends" Award!

Blogs that received the Let's Be Friends Award are exceedingly charming. These kind bloggers aim to find and be friends. They are not interested in self-aggrandizement. Our hope is that when the ribbons of these prizes are cut, even more friendships are propagated. Please give more attention to these writers. Deliver this award to eight bloggers.
So, here's how I read this:
"Blogs that received the Let's Just Be Friends Award offer pleasant conversation but are not someone you'd actually take home at the end of the party. These clingy bloggers have no real friends. They are sheepish and should stay indoors, out of the light. Oh God, we hope we make some new friends soon so we can stop hanging with these losers. Please, someone else come talk to them so we can can get the hell out of here. Two should be enough, but we'll hope for eight just to be sure."
Oh, hell, I'll take any award I can get. Gotta keep that positivity going somehow.

But I'm too lazy to tag eight others. Besides, I'm not sure this award sends exactly the message I would intend...

May 1, 2009

Positivity! Yay! or, "Where's my yellow blazer?"

Blue Sugar Poet, which I still think is one of the coolest names ever, has gone off the deep end. Which can only mean one thing: She has given me an award!

Awards! Yay! Here's the deal:
1) Add the logo of the award to your blog
2) Add a link to the person who awarded it to you
3) Nominate at least 7 other blogs
4) Add links to those blogs on your blog
5) Leave a message for your nominees on their blogs!

And now, the tagged:
maria, tiffany, robin, paca, blogless, mckoala, and jane (Doe, though I also do love Jane V's blog).
(Yes, I know that blogless has an impenetrable mime shield. As such, Aerin gets the final tag.)
And I am breaking one of the rules. Specifically, I'm not doing #5 because I'm lazy.

And now...

My five top strengths!

Yes, I have just recently (as in an hour ago) suffered through the Strengths Finder 2.0. And my life is totally changed. Well, really, no, it's not. My life is exactly the same. I just understand it a little better. Here are my top strengths:

Strategic
Ideation
Connectedness
Positivity
Relator
The shocker, when I read the list, was the last one. My first thought was, "WTF? I don't think I'd be very good at selling houses." My second thought was, "Boy, it's really time to give in and get those reading glasses."

The next shocker was finding out, thanks to spell checkers and dictionary.com, that "ideation" is actually a real word.

Honestly, I was gobsmacked at how uncanny the descriptions were. Now, I've only read the five they picked for me; it's entirely possible that all 34 strengths (or, "themes of talent" as the book calls them) are written in a way that would have me going, "Hey, yeah, that's like so totally me!" But I guess that's the positivity emerging.